We decided who we are?

Last week I bad a “bad experience” I said something that someone took offense at and told me I was insensitive. I discussed this with another friend and she told me I was TO sensitive. I wrote you about this and you reminded me I can’t control others feeling about me but boy…how can I be both insensitive and to sensitive? How do we decide who we want to be and not let others opinions of us get to us so hard. I am still upset by both of my friends comments about me. I want to change myself to please both of them…yikes!